Dating for men in the military
What I am saying is that in the beginning phase of the relationship, it’s common for one or both people to have some amount of insecurity and want to go out of their way to make sure the other person really likes them before they let their guard down.So one of the ways they might see if you like them is to do and say anything they can think of that they think you would like. You would want the other person you’re with to feel secure with you, so that they can let their guard down and be their true day-to-day self (without all the added performances to make you like them).I’ve described this kind of thing as people wearing a pretty “mask” at the beginning of a relationship and how, if you know about this, you’ll make sure to see the person behind the mask (and not mistake their pretty “mask” as who they actually are).
At first, I thought he was just trying to end things, but then from time to time, he’ll text me something really sweet, like about how much he wants to see me, or that he’s been thinking about me, so obviously, he’s still interested or why would he do that?
Okay, I’m gonna let you in on something that very few women know.
For instance, if a guy says something like “I like you so much” or whatever during the early phases, he very well might mean it, but he also wants to see how you’ll react.
Specifically, he’s checking to see if you’ll say that you feel the same way.
that doesn’t mean he’ll lose interest in you, but if he already had some insecurities about whether or not you are into him, this will stir up his insecurities further and he’ll keep doing and trying things to “make you like him” so he can feel secure. So, for starters, I would say that the more insecure he is about you liking him, the more of this stuff he’s going to say until he’s convinced that you really like him a lot.
Once he believes that you really like him, it’s at that point he’ll relax and start being himself.
In the beginning phase of a relationship, the guy wants you to like him and wants to know that you do.
Everyone wants to be liked and if there’s any potential to the relationship whatsoever, the guy wants to know that you like him. So when he’s texting you sweet things, saying all that mushy stuff and being really attentive, there is an element of wanting to hook you in and see where he stands with you.
He would text me things like, ‘I miss you’ and ‘Can’t wait to see you’ and on our second date he said he ‘never liked a girl so much after only two dates’. All this was great, but then he started to shift and lately has been acting really shady- he cancels on me last minute, he’s been acting distant, and I’m just getting weird vibes.
We hit it off right away and during the first few weeks, he seemed super into me.
“Dropping the mask” is something I talk about extensively in the article link below…Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating