Dating someone much younger than you

Men under 30 neither know nor care about such ‘rules’. But I didn’t — not least because he reminded me so much of an ex-partner that it made me uneasy.

Used to the notion of equality between the sexes, they are more spontaneous and natural. The end of our dates became increasingly awkward, with me trying to slip away politely without any smooching.

Dating someone much younger than you

Thankfully, I learned enough about him on the phone to decide not to go for a drink with him.

He was a champion whinger whose bitterness could have melted the phone line.

It’s not easy to be ‘just friends’ with someone of the opposite sex if one of you wants more.

Whether you're new to the dating scene, a regular player, or jumping back into the game after a long hiatus, the same questions about dating rules apply: How soon do you lean over for that first kiss? And last -- but by no means least -- how do you know when the time is right for sex?

In my view, today’s middle-aged British men are rather lost at sea.

They’re not great on grooming, mistakenly taking their lead from the young.Still, there were times when the idea of a permanent partner seemed appealing. Did I really want to know about that classic 1966 Mercedes SL he’d restored, or where his children went to school?Knowing I wouldn’t get this with a much younger man, I decided to remain open to dates with men nearer my own age, who could sing along to the Rolling Stones. Ever since my book was published, I’d been inundated with correspondence from older men who wanted to prove they had just as much going for them as the young bucks had. He was no matinee idol but looked presentable enough. No, I wanted the thrill of seeing a beautiful young man over the other side of the dinner table, laughing at my anachronisms and making me giddy with excitement.We exchanged friendly messages and spoke on the phone. We stayed in touch via email and Daniel kept trying to pursue things further, but I knew there would be no point.You can’t commit yourself to someone because he is a nice person — even if he does have a cool car.The chubby, balding civil servant in his early 50s who contacted me would not normally be someone I’d meet up with, but he messaged me in such a witty and eloquent way that I agreed to meet him for tea.

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