Rapid dating

Mind you, we're not going to get your adrenaline running 24/7 like those other guys but then again we won't treat you like second class citizens more often than not.

The arguments for this seem either forced or just speculation because it seems that men who prefer casual encounters or are willing to engage in such, are less likely to want a long-term commitment.

However, those that do engage in such short-term relationships do admittedly flirt and grab women's attention in that 3 minute window better and perhaps this is the flaw of the study.

Since most women expressed an interest in long-term mating, it is surprising that they would be attracted to a man who came across as preferring a short-term mating orientation.

The researchers raise the possibility that a male's sociosexuality may indicate his history of successful mating experiences or mating skills (i.e., high mating intelligence), and that this is attractive to women.

They set up a speed-dating event and invited a total of 382 people (190 men and 192 women) who were aged 18-54 to participate.

All of their participants were real singles whose sole motivation for participation in the study was to find a real-life romantic or sexual mate.

The researchers suggest that this may be due to traditional male sex roles, which require men to be assertive and proactive in the mating domain, skills that may not come as easily to shy guys.

Also, since shyness is correlated with neuroticism, shy individuals may have come across as socially anxious, which may have made their dating partner feel uncomfortable.

The popularity of the speed-dater was also positively related to the choosiness of that speed-dater, although the correlation was only significant among men (perhaps due to the fact that women on average were choosier than men).

As the researchers note, this finding is consistent with the idea that highly popular people are thought to be more careful in their choices while unpopular people are thought to be more indiscriminative (see Penke et al., 2007).

To further put things in perspective, the researchers converted these percentages into the time and money spent on multiple speed-dating events, assuming that all the events are independent in terms of outcome and that each event costs 30 Euros (roughly ) and lasts 3 hours. It's been in my experience that most women want a man who "is sweet and will treat them with respect and as equals" and yet they will fall head over heels for shallow men simply because they're exciting and a challenege and they believe they can save the guy from his immoral ways.

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